It is strongly recommend for most modern people (any lagna) to wait until after age 31 to accept a marriage partner; in other words, to wait until the Shani return (age 27-30) and the second Rahu-Ketu opposition (age 27-28) have completed.
After those two major transits are finished, the person can successfully distinguish one's own goals, wishes, desires, and preferences from the imposed safety 'scaffolding' structure of values and tastes that was provided by the parents and the culture at large.
If you find yourself being forced to choose a spouse before you feel quite ready, this too can be managed psychically. The key is to take proactive psychic control of the process, avoid excessive emotional reactivity, and set a clear image in the mind.
- One good method is to imagine oneself at various stages of the marriage. Imagine oneself during the negotiation-selection process, on the wedding day, on the 5th anniversary. (Are there children in this image?) Then, envision one's 10th, 20th, 50th, and imagine the funeral of one or the other of the spouses. (Who has predeceased in this image?)
If there is tension or discontent in these imagined scenes, look into one's field of expectation to discover where in the mind one may be carrying inherited conflict from one's mother's marriage experience, one's father's, a sibling perhaps, or other close associate who may be needing confirmation of their own negative experience by seeing it copied in your life.
This sort of psychic "project management" will help to release Shani-imposed negative expectations (fears) from the family lineage, and replace those fears with positive entitlements for your own happiness. This sort of conscious preparation -- for the most important commitment of adult life -- can yield rich rewards of a self-directed, satisfying marriage experience.
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